my top four books on marriage

Know someone who is experiencing conflict in their marriage?

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Here is my personal list of books I recommend on marriage.  My husband and I will celebrate ten years of marriage this month, and since he is a pastor, we’ve had numerous opportunities to meet with couples for marriage counseling.  Whenever someone asks me for a good book on marriage, these books are included in my answer:


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Love and Respect, by Emerson Eggerichs

“Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerichs is my #1 marriage recommendation book. It talks about a woman’s need to be loved and a man’s need to be respected, and the vicious cycle that happens when one or both of those are lacking in a relationship.  Every person I know who has read this book has raved about how much its message resonated with them and their own situation.

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Strengthening Your Marriage, by Wayne Mack

This book has great doctrine and theology on marriage, but what I most appreciate are the discussion questions.  The questions are so thorough and deep that they addressed issues my husband and I had never talked about even after a year-long engagement and eight weeks of pre-marital counseling. We use this book often when conducting pre-marital counseling with other couples, but is very useful for those who have been married for a long time as well.

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Sacred Marriage, by Gary Thomas

This book asks the question, “What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?”  Of all the books, I would say this one provided the biggest challenge for me personally.  It caused me to think of marriage as growing in holiness and selflessness, as opposed to thinking about “what I can get out of this.”

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Team Us: Marriage Together, by Ashleigh Slater

This book was just released, and is very light and conversational.  It gives good tips on how to work together as a team in marriage, when the temptation is often to veer towards a “Me” vs. “Him” mentality.  It also has great discussion questions at the end of each chapter which will promote unity and oneness in the marriage relationship.

Read my review here:


What about you?  What books have been most beneficial in your marriage?





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